In my last blog post, I talked about learning how to identify old programming—those thoughts you have in your head, and stories you tell yourself…sometimes without even realizing it. But, it’s REALLY important to start paying attention to them if you want to pull yourself out of the dark hole of depression!
Hopefully you’ve spent some time figuring out what those old stories are. In this post, you’ll learn how to stop being hooked by that old programming.
Maybe you’ve heard this joke: You hear your neighbor‘s dog, Brownie, howling like crazy on the front porch. You ask your neighbor, “What’s wrong with Brownie? Why is she howling?” Your neighbor tells you, “Brownie’s sitting on a nail.” You ask your neighbor, “Why doesn’t Brownie move?” Your neighbor answers, “I guess it doesn’t hurt bad enough.”
If you’re like most people, life’s challenges can sometimes leave you feeling stumped. It’s like being in quicksand. The more you struggle to find your answer, the deeper you sink. Sometimes the solution comes from being still and surrendering to the fact that you need help. But how do you know where to look?
Usually I discourage people from trying to be perfect. But in 2017, perfection is something I think we should strive for. I don’t mean perfection in the normal sense. What I mean is that it’s time for us to step up to the perfection of our full potential as co-creators on this planet.
Spiritual teacher Patricia Cota-Robles* talks about “patterns of perfection” that already exist, but just need to be manifested in our everyday lives. These patterns relate to every area you can think of: better ways of offering mental and physical health care, communicating in relationships, parenting, creating affordable housing, growing/delivering food, law enforcement, and much, much more.
One of my clients recently told me how distraught he is by the state of affairs in the US, especially with all of the politics related to the election. I told him the way I choose to view this is to believe that all of the darkness Humanity has created is now surfacing to be healed and cleared.
There are so many things around and within us that need to be healed and cleared. If we try to fight or suppress them, it may feel like trying to hold a beach ball underwater. The more we push down, the harder the ball pushes back!
There comes a point when you know it’s time to re-invent yourself. You might be feeling frustrated in a job where the system is highly dysfunctional, and you have ideas about how to make things better, but no one wants to listen. Or, maybe you’re in a relationship where you’ve been giving way too much of yourself, and you’ve lost track of who you really are.
I don’t agree with the old adage “Tis better to give than receive.” In my 25+ years of working with human service professionals including teachers, nurses, and therapists, I have seen too many of these helpers experience burnout. Many employers are only too happy to see their workers give 100%+ of their time and energy. But if you are giving 100% of yourself in the workplace, how can you have any energy left over for the rest of your life?